I’ve been talking to myself, and the funny thing is, I answer myself all the time!
- Karen Pepe
- Apr 7, 2022
- 3 min read
Do you have good conversations with yourself, or are you mean and yelling at yourself often? Our minds are very literal and yet so full of feelings. What you say to yourself, the things you think and tell yourself become YOUR TRUTH.
Let’s sit down and chat here in this newsletter for a minute. If you were talking to a friend, would they tell you you were “no good”, “stupid”, “fat”, “not worthy”, “a failure” etc? OF COURSE NOT!!! I certainly wouldn’t say anything remotely like that to you. So…why do you sometimes put yourself down? For whatever reason we, as humans, make it a point to berate ourselves instead of making it a point to lift ourselves up.
How do we change it, and flip the switch? (If you’ve been following me, I like to use the term “Flip the Switch” a bunch!) Here are some tips to get you started:
You need to be aware of it. You are reading this now, so, first step done…you are now aware!
When you say something bad to yourself, practice catching yourself in the act. For instance - you forgot to do something and you tell yourself “I’m an idiot. How could I forget to do that?” As you're saying it, you are now aware. Take a step back, catch yourself in the act of this self sabotage and “flip the switch” and say, “oops, I made a mistake, but I am human, and what can I do going forward to correct it and make sure it doesn’t happen again”.
Create quotes that are positive to tell yourself in different situations. Brainstorm some things such as…”I am a smart person whose opinion people value.” Set your alarm for 5 minutes and write down as many positive affirmations about yourself as you can!
Brainstorm other things that you can say to yourself instead of the negative, so that you have an arsenal of good things that are flipped from the bad. Such as flip “I am not good enough” to “I am worthy of achieving anything I set my mind to. I am on a journey to be the best me possible, and I am just as good as anyone else.”
Research/look up/google positive affirmations and find some that resonate with you.
Write these out. Maybe put them on post-it notes or make pretty cards of them and put them around your house to remind yourself. Create a book of affirmations to refer to.
If you need even more motivation to talk nicely to yourself, record your voice repeating these affirmations.
Start journaling and tell yourself positive things.
It’s more than just saying affirmations, it’s really believing them, instead of believing the negative self-talk. You need to practice, practice, practice.
Think of how differently you can approach each day, and your whole life if you start with the positive. How different you would feel about yourself if you stopped talking to yourself like an enemy, and started talking to yourself like a good friend would.
I bet it would be a brighter and sunnier day, and YOUR TRUTH would lead you to great and happy things!
If you haven’t yet used the Mojo Morning Template, grab it here to help you start on this path of “Flipping the Switch” to Positive Self Talk.
I believe your happiness and success is right inside of you, so make sure you talk nicely to the beautiful person you are.
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